It Was Just A Little Distraction From My Marriage Problems But Someone Is Blackmailing Me-Pt 2

True Life Story: It Was Just A Little Distraction From My Marriage Problems But Someone Is Blackmailing Me-Pt 2

Dear Lively Stones,

Remember me? Click here to read my first story about someone who is blackmailing me. So two things happened last week: no one, the s3x tape was released and I told my husband about the whole thing. Since that time, my life has taken a very terrible twist. First, while I was still contemplating on what to do after the series of advice I received from Madam Jzhane and Lively Stones family, I made up my mind to tell my husband but first, I had to tell our Rev Father cos I wanted to do confession and also, beg him to help me speak to my husband about everything.

Unfortunately, the 2 days later, the blackmailer released the s3x tape. It was sent to the faculty of nursing WhatsApp group. As am speaking, my lover has been suspended and he is to face a disciplinary panel. As soon as the S3x tape leaked, I called my husband, he did not pick up so I left him several voice notes. I was panicking. I then switched off my phone, I have not been able to go to school for the last week.

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The shame and the pain is too much. To make matters worse, some stupid people have been sending me d*ck pictures cos they have been laughing at me about the scandal. I called the priest and he told me to relax, and that he will talk to my husband.  I called my sister and told her everything. My lover sent me a text, that we should stick to the plan, that is the only way both of us will get out of this. He said I should file for a divorce, that he would tell the school that my marriage was over and so we both had a consensual s3x relationship.

My husband did not call until midnight around 3  a.m. He said he had listened to my messages and that since I decided to get revenge for his cheating, I should consider the marriage over, that he would take care of his son financially, but that I should forget about anything marriage … that he would move on and I should also do the same. I have cried for many hours and days, my eyes are completely swollen.

My family is so upset, they are planning to send some people to my husband’s people to ask for forgiveness. I am supposed to go with them this weekend but I am not sure I can face the humiliation. Plus, why go to beg his people, will that yield any different result when the person involved has said he is no longer interested? Will his family convince him to accept me back? The Rev father says I should wait for my family to finish begging, to see if there will be any good news because our church does not permit divorce, that if I divorce, I won’t be able to remarry or do certain things in the church anymore.

One mind is telling me to wait for the family visit outcome but the panel may call me next week to interview me, will I say to them that I had an affair or should I say the lecturer forced me to sleep with him? Which one will be my best solution out of this mess? He did not force me but I am afraid that if I say we had an affair, I may also be suspended. What do I say? I need to prepare myself very well.

Maybe this is my fate cos like I said, before all these happened, there has been a lack of trust between my husband and me. I think I just gave him a license to continue the deception he is living abroad. I know in my spirit that he has someone, he is just lying that he made a mistake….cos, ever since I started sleeping with my lover, I hardly call my husband and he too hardly calls me. When we talk, it’s not like before. I know he is occupied with someone but he will say it’s work and school, that he is very busy.

So, I need another advice, Is there any point in following my people to my husband’s village to go and beg them? I have heard that men don’t forgive a cheating wife no matter what but the Rev Father said he will convince my husband because my husband used to be an altar boy. But since my husband spoke to me last, he has not even picked up the priest’s number. Secondly, now that the tape is out, I am convinced it was not my lover who leaked the tape. Should I go ahead and get a divorce, so that I can tell the school disciplinary panel that I and my lecturer are getting married? I know he loves me but everything is so messed up.

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This is not how I would have wanted my life to be, I am now the subject of a s3x scandal in my school. Some naughty students are carrying rumors that my lecturer has been sleeping with other students before now, that Karma has caught up with him now. Could that be true? He has denied everything and has said he is ready to face any student who can prove he slept with them. He has had a lot of advances from female students but he rejected them. That it was my intelligence that attracted me to him.

I am so ashamed of everything but I need to make a decision. My husband wants a divorce, should I file for it or wait for him and his family and my family to decide first? That will be total humiliation by the way. Or should I accept what my husband said, that the marriage is truly over…and then focus on helping my lecturer so he does not lose his job and so I can complete my schooling in peace, at least till next year?

This is a messed up situation. I need your advice again. God bless you all.

Anonymous

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