My New Wife Is Accusing Me Of Being Controlling-Pls Advice

February 6, 2023 Stan

True Life Story: My New Wife Is Accusing Me Of Being Controlling-Pls Advice

Good Morning Lively Stones,

Please I need you peoples advise for my wife. My wife is a young woman of 22 years old. I am 43 years old. But the way things happened, I never knew her age when we started dating. We met on Facebook last year. Then, I just divorced my ex wife. I was lonely and just wanted to chat with friends. I never planned marriage so soon after my divorce.

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Being with this young beautiful lady made me happy. I thought we were just friends because I liked her being extrovert and fun but she was also very disrespectful sometimes. She talks to me anyhow. And when I correct her, she will start crying. Maybe cos I was captured her beauty, anytime we have issues, I try to make her feel good by apologizing and so on.

Last year, in November, she started talking about marriage and I told her I am not ready for marriage yet. I just got divorced….my four year old son is my ex wife….I still miss them. I usually pray to God for reconciliation with me and my wife in future, so moving on to marriage so early is not my plan. So, I told her…this girl, Susan (not real name), that I am not ready for marriage.

This made her stay away from me for almost a week. Then she showed up in my place and ended up spending two weeks with me. I thought she was ok and wanted us to continue the relationship. Just a few weeks to Christmas, Susan tells me she is pregnant for me. I was surprised. I asked her what she wants to do: of its abortion, she said no. That she will keep the child. I told her ok…I will support her any way I can.

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Then Susan’s mother got involved and said her daughter cannot have a child outside wedlock. That if I don’t marry her…the she will remove the pregnancy. I said ok. It was now Susan who started putting pressure on me everyday…crying that I want to destroy her life. That she wants the baby and she loves me so much…she wants to marry me. Like I said…I have soft spot for Susan….I eventually succumbed to her crying and said ok…we can get married.

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Towards end of December, I went to pay her bride price and since then, she has been living with me as my wife. We plan to do traditional wedding later when she gives birth. But since we got married….Susan has been behaving irrationally. She is always on social media…chatting men and when I talk to her….she will say I have not married her fully so she can still act like a single woman.

And this her attitude makes me say things like I can’t marry her if she is still talking to other men. We had an argument about this and things got so heated and I smashed her iPhone which I bought her against the wall cos I told her as long as she is in my house, no more social media for her. This made her angry…she reported to her mother and her mother told her to return home.

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Now, she has sent me a message that she has reported me to social services. That I am an abusive husband. So, she wants to remove the pregnancy…its still under three months…I went and apologized to her in her mother’s house and guess what happened, I saw her with a man ,…a young man…I asked her who the guy is…and she aggressively told me to mind my business. Then the young man had the guts to tell me to get out or he will beat me up.

So, I went back home….sometimes, I think I am being to fast with this girl….cos after that incident….I made up my mind to leave her alone…..until she came back two days ago begging for my forgiveness. I am confused…one minute she wants to marry and be with me…next moment, she is talking to other young men….when I talk…she says I am abusive…she will be saying that is why my ex wife left me but its not true…my ex wife left because she cheated…I forgave her but she said she prefer to move on with her new man. I still love my ex till date.

So, I need your advice….should I work things out with Susan or let her go…cos I am not an abusive man but I cannot let her be disgracing me with other men…..anytime she begs…I feel weakness for her…she says she loves me….some persons say its because she is still too young and being married to me…will make her feel like she is trapped…and that I am treating her like a child and not giving her freedom…which freedom….freedom to cheat?

Please advise me…what should I do…I am tired ….she is very beautiful but Susan lacks manners and maybe too young for marriage….I am not old school but I do not trust Susan on social media….though she has promised to change….that she was not cheating,…just catching cruise…that most of the guys used to be her friends….that she can’t just cut them off cos she is engaged to be married….that I am being old school and controlling….am I being controlling?

You see, my ex wife cheated….I fear I can’t stand another cheating saga….I really get super jealous seeing my new wife with other men….on social media or not….what should I do please…

Anonymous

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