My Marriage Is Abusive And Toxic Yet I Cannot Leave My Wife-Pt 2

True Life Story: My Marriage Is Abusive And Toxic Yet I Cannot Leave My Wife-Pt 2

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My wife kept calling and calling but I refused to answer her. I think my mom talked her into suggesting that we both go for therapy and when she texted me about that, I agreed and came home….my wife begged me and we found a therapist in Lekki…a very professional and expensive one too. First, my wife barely made it to the therapy sessions. And when she came, she would argue and I think the therapist was more on her side cos she kept saying my wife is the way she is cos of her background.

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Yes, my wife is from a broken family ….where they all didn’t like each other…so I get it that she does not know how to show commitment in love except through s3x and jokes but I don’t think that will be enough for this marriage to work. The Therapist is advising me to accept who my wife is and be patient not to try and change her but to encourage her to change by herself. I know much about therapy but is it not supposed to help people change their behavior… why do I have to accept my wife’s behavior until she changes….That will be too hard for me to do. But I promised to try.

And that is what I have been doing for the past year…trying but I am getting tired…my wife has not changed…yes, I know I cannot change an adult and I know she is not perfect but she tried to bite me several times….when she does not approve of what am saying…instead of slapping me….she smashes a glass cup….she said the therapist recommended that ….is that what my son will grow up to be?

Our son is now two years, thanks to my mom who is now leaving with us to look after the boy my mom is also tired cos she does not like the way my wife treats me but my mom is never one to advise against anything in a marriage….my mom always advises me to be patient with my wife. My sisters are so upset that they don’t come to visit me. When they come, they don’t stay the night cos they can’t stand my wife.

Three months ago, I met someone, not planned at all…but she is a very pretty, classy, and calm lady. She and I have been communicating about a business proposal for her company. I found myself looking forward to seeing her and talking to her. She makes me feel peaceful. She opened up that she is a divorcee…she left her abusive husband….no children from the marriage. I and she started talking about the different ways spouses abuse their partners. She made me realize that I was condoning my wife too much and that there is a better way to live.

I am attracted to this lady…I can’t lie but it’s not really because of her…I think my eye has been opened to the fact that my wife cannot ever change…she is the way she is….broken from her background and broken people hurt people they love…hurt people hurt others….I got home to my wife….she was on the bed…I wanted to tell her it was over…that I cannot do this anymore. My wife got other plans…we ended up having hot passionate s3x…my wife was wild….she was orgasming everywhere…squirting and that turns me on.

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Two hours later…I told my wife that s3x is great but no longer enough for our marriage…she began to cry….she agreed that she was not good for me and our son…and that she is pregnant again…so she decided to give me a divorce and get an abortion. She says she cannot be a mother without me in her life. I told her no need to get an abortion…cos my mom will take care of the children ….she said no…that the only way she will have the second child is if I remove divorce from the equation.

Do you see how my wife is now blackmailing me to remain with her in this abusive and toxic marriage? What should I do? Stick with her for the sake of my unborn child or let her get rid of the pregnancy? I told her I would sue her if she gets an abortion…she said she does not care….that she will go to prison if that is what it takes. My wife is crazy….a mad woman I swear…..what am I going to do about this? My mother said I should keep on trying…that love conquers all….my parents were married for 45 years now…I know my wife loves my mother, she calls her the mother she never had and that is why my mom has a soft spot for her.

I love my wife….I will do anything for her but I am not happy. Even the jokes are not funny anymore. Why is love not equating to happiness? How do you love someone and not be happy with them? It’s the abuse and toxic marriage…my wife says she is trying but I am not seeing that she is….she says I am comparing her with other women….maybe so…but why can’t she be a little more like a calm wife, and stop throwing tantrums when things don’t go her way. Yes, she says I know she has a temper and she is working on it….how is smashing glasses working on her temper?

I am confused man….I am spending more time with this woman I am working with …I love how she makes me forget my problems at home…she has been wanting us to take our relationship to the next level….she tried to kiss me but I told her we can be friends….she is not happy I have friend-zoned her but I look forward to going home every day to have mad s3x with my wife….after the s3x…we don’t talk to each other… it’s like…we are both tired of talking….we do better at f*cking….s3x is the only language we both communicate well….I think I am beginning to lose my mind….I need help….I don’t know what else to do.

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