My Fiancée Wants Me To Cut Off My Baby Mama Before Marriage

True Life Story: My Fiancée Wants Me To Cut Off My Baby Mama Before Marriage

Good day lively stones,

I need ya’all take on my relationship matter. So, my ex and I have a daughter. We met several years ago. It was a situationship. It was love but she was not ready for any form of commitment. I admired her alot, she is sexy as f*ck. We just both had  different opinions on many subjects. Being someone well educated and exposed, she seemed to have very strong opinions about certain matters.

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I admired her but I did not think she was one to marry. She acts like a feminist. Any argument we had, she wanted to be right. I don’t like arguments…she used to drive me crazy. The only way we communicated a bit was through s3x. She would say things like no man can control her,etc.

Even in the s3x…she was into strange beliefs about s3x. She believed in open s3x. A few times, we stepped out and had s3x with other people. Then she got pregnant and said it was mine. I didn’t believe until the baby was born and I had a DNA to confirm it was mine.  Yes, we had the baby yet I was struggling with how I felt about her at the time.

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Eventually I broke up with her. Then she moved on to a new guy. But even with this guy, that has not prevented me and my ex from occasionally f*cking each other. It didn’t start immediately. Maybe like a year after. Then she got pregnant for the guy. They started having issues.

I don’t know the full details of their issues but I am sure it was about her personality. They quarreled so much, maybe he found out about her lifestyle and he broke up with her since she was five months pregnant. Then me and her continued. And once we started, we never stopped. Its like an off and on thing. She knows I see other people and she is not bothered. Like I said, marriage is not on her mind but I am getting close to 40 and I want to settle down.

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Now, there is a lady I am now in a serious relationship with for almost a year now. I love her very much. I have been talking to her about marriage but she knows about me and my ex and says she cannot marry me if I am still seeing my ex. Because of my ex, she has broken up with me a few times. I promise her not to sleep with my ex, she forgives me but I see myself going back again. She does not deserve this kind of treatment. She is a nice woman.

Now she has given me a final ultimatum to stop seeing my ex permanently.  If I really want to stop seeing my ex , then that means stop seeing my daughter too. That link with my ex is my weak point and she knows that. That is going to be difficult. I admit, my ex knows how to lure me with my daughter and most times, I fall for it. She knows my mumu button I swear.

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I have been thinking about how to break free of her. The only way seems like I have to cut off all forms of communication with her. And that means, including my daughter. Will I be a bad father if I stop communicating with my daughter? Maybe until she is old enough to come live with me whenever she wants?

I thought about filing for joint custody of my daughter but I feel like its a choice between my daughter and my fiancée …how do I sort this out?

Anonymous

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