I lost my virginity to my cousin and now he’s in love with me – but it’s normal in my family, my uncle even married his
A WOMAN has revealed that she lost her virginity to her cousin and now he’s in love with her.
The 21-year-old explained that whilst she feels ‘guilty’ and ‘gross’ about the situation, according to her 31-year-old male cousin, such relationships are fairly commonplace in their family.
3
3
3
Keen to open up on the situation, the anonymous woman took to social media to reveal all, leaving many stunned.
Posting on Reddit, on the /offmychest thread under the username @98rewudhijkkajfds, the woman titled her post ‘Yesterday I lost my virginity to my (first) cousin’.
She then explained how she had never actually met her cousin, who is 10 years her senior, until recently, as she said: “We grew up in different countries and had never met until 11 days ago.
“I had met almost his whole family, including dad (my dad’s brother) and mother, and am quite close to his sister.
Read more real life stories
“Most of my family is from country A, and I grew up in country B. Whenever I’d go to country A to visit my family, he wasn’t there because he lived abroad in country C for a few years.
“Some of our relatives had already told us we had to meet each other because we were quite similar (we like a lot of the same things etc), and now he’s back to country A and I finally got to see him, and we instantly bonded.”
The young woman explained that after spending lots of time together, even other family members noticed their connection.
She added: “We would hang out everyday since he’s on holiday, and go to the beach, he’d take me to touristic places…
“His sister started to make jokes about us being a couple and at first I was a bit grossed out, because, I mean, we’re RELATED!
“And then he told me that our family is huge (our grandparents gave birth to 10 kids…and eight of them had children), and a lot of people have hooked up with their cousins, including our uncle who’s now actually married to one.
“I have to say that made me feel less disgusted about it and as we got closer I had to fight the thoughts in my head about him more and more. We have the same last name!”
But after falling asleep together in the same bed, things soon progressed to the next level, as she shared: “And then one day, we fell asleep on the same bed, woke up during the night, and made out for hours.
The Law on Incest in the UK
INCEST refers to sexual activity between close family members, such as siblings, parents and children, or grandparents and grandchildren.
- Criminal Offence: Engaging in sexual activity with a close family member is illegal.
- Close Family Members: Includes siblings (full or half), parents, children, grandparents, and grandchildren.
- Penalties: Those found guilty of incest can face significant legal consequences, including imprisonment.
- Protection and Welfare: The law aims to protect individuals and maintain the integrity of family relationships.
- Consent Irrelevant: Even if both parties consent, it is still considered a criminal offence.
“We continued hiding from everyone, but his sister continued with the jokes.
“He had initiated sex before but I made up excuses since I was a virgin…And then I told him that, and we had sex. And I lost my virginity to my first cousin.”
The whole thing just makes me feel so gross
Reddit poster
Not only this, but she also shared her added concerns, as she admitted: “And we didn’t use a condom but today he told he was really sorry and that it was very irresponsible of him, that I should take the morning after pill just to be sure, and he could send me the money to get it and wish he was here with me to hug me.
“I feel so guilty about everything. I know he really likes me, but I don’t see a future in this, because I can’t even bear to imagine the family’s reaction, and he talks about visiting me in country B, and told me he is in love with me, but I can’t even think about it in that way despite the fact I really like him because I can’t shut up all these voices in my head.”
Can I marry my cousin in the UK?
ACROSS the globe, more than 10 percent of marriages are between first or second cousins.
In the UK, there’s no legal bar to two cousins having a relationship.
That means that if end up falling for the children of your aunts and uncles, there’s nothing stopping you from eventually tying the knot.
If you’re over the age of 18, you can do this without the consent of your legal guardian or parent.
First-cousin marriages were once quite common in Europe, especially among the elite.
The woman then shared her confusion as she concluded: “Having to go to the pharmacy by myself and getting the pill definitely made it worse, as well as hearing some of my friend’s reactions…
“I don’t know what to think anymore, he wants to visit me and see me and says he misses me already and the whole thing just makes me feel so gross.”
The best sex positions
The most searched sex positions…
Reddit users react
Reddit users were left in disbelief at the woman’s confession and many flocked to the comments to share their thoughts.
Not only did people hail the situation as ‘toxic’, but others urged her to seek therapy to deal with the situation.
Distance yourself from him and take a step back from the situation
Reddit user
One person said: “This is a toxic situation. Just try and move on. Tell him it was a mistake and you’re no longer interested in him in that way.”
Another added: “You should talk to someone about this.”
A third commented: “Hang in there, move past it, distance yourself from him and take a step back from the situation.”
Not only this, but at the same time, one person claimed: “It’s actually legal for first cousins to marry and have sex. In many cultures this is common practice.”
