I Am Dealing With Constant Temptation As A Married Woman

January 18, 2024 Stan

True Life Story: I Am Dealing With Constant Temptation As A Married Woman

Dear Lively Stones,

I am a 51 years old woman, married with teenagers (3 boys) and for the last few months, I have been living with temptation, I feel like I need someone to talk to, someone who will not judge me, someone who will understand the kind of help that I need. Life was good with my husband until about 4 years ago. I don’t know if it was because our children have grown and left home but we just stopped having s3x with each other.

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Like a few years before that, s3x gradually started declining from twice a week to one a week, to one in two or three weeks until it became like once a month or two months. But that four years ago, it became like, s3x was not even on the agenda. I discussed severally with my husband and he was like, he does not know what is wrong with him, that he just lost interest. Well, I discovered the cause of lack of interest not too long; he was messing around with Instagram girls.

It got so bad that having some of the girls as mistresses paying house rent for them in lekki and spending heavily on them. When I complained to his elder sister cos that is the only person he listens to. Sister Helen tried to talk to him but he would not listen. He told her that he wanted to live his life the way he wanted cos he is not a small boy. That I should know that people can fall out of love; he told her he does not find me s3xually attractive but he still loves me.

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This situation pained me, I contemplated divorce but after long thinking and counsel, I decided to stay cos if I leave, it would hurt my children and I cannot allow another woman come to reap the fruit of my labour. I threw myself into my work and business and things started happening for me. My business grew and one of my half sisters begged me to hire her husband who at the time, was fired as a Driver from a factory.

That is how John became my personal Driver. John was very loyal and I loved having him around cos he was also like my PA. After staying for years without s3x, p@rn and masturbation became my companion. I was not feeling well one day so I stayed at home. John was the one running some of my errands. John and some of my domestic staff were in the house but I locked my room to pleasure myself with p@rn but unknown to me, I did not lock my door very well.

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One of my domestic staff spied on me and apparently, started gossiping with the other staff that I was watching p@rn and masturbating. John came to me and told me that he wanted to tell me to be careful, he told me what the domestic staff were discussing behind my back. I was ashamed. I had to explain my situation to him. John felt sorry for me and asked why am I not looking for lovers like my husband has been doing. I told him no man would want me cos even my husband does not find me attractive.

John said its a lie, that he thinks I am very attractive and any man would be happy to be my lover. I laughed but I noticed since that day, John started flirting with me. When no one was around, he would be very tender with me, brushing himself on my body. I had to call him to order, to warn him to stop flirting with me. John was like, he wanted me to know that I am as s3xy as any woman can be. I told him hes just trying to be nice to me, and he grabbed me instantly and kissed me so hard and full….I was dizzy from the shock and the impact.

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This became me and John’s hide and seek routine, once no one was watching, he would grab my but or kiss me. And then we could not hold it anymore, we had s3x one day. And then it became an everyday occurrence. The thing is, John is a very young and healthy male of 33 years. He has got the strength of a stallion. When he f#cks, he makes all the many years of being married to my husband feel like a child’s play. I was happy and I started showring John with gifts and money.

Anytime his wife, my half sister calls me, I feel so guilty but I have no choice. S3x with John felt like a drug I needed to survive. It felt like I was young again and beautiful cos a young man desired me. This was my secret until Three months ago. I got pregnant. I did not even know until I was four months pregnant. I was shocked cos I was thinking I was already near menopause.

When I told John, he was the kindest when I told him…he asked me what I wanted….that he would support me no matter what. Of course, I had an abortion but to me, that was a wake up call. I knew I had to let John go. Much as I was in love with him, much as he made me happy, I cannot risk getting pregnant for him again. And we both dont like condoms. Having an abortion at my age, at four months pregnant is risky. What if my husband or my family or children discovered before I did?

Not that I care what my husband would really think but the shame would be too much and maybe that would make him ask for a divorce. So, I had to tell John that we need to stop but John too was in love with me so we could not stop, no matter how hard we tried. That was when I made that tough choice to fire John. I paid him alot of money, gave him a car and told him that he was fired. John left with heavy heart and I felt like a very wicked woman.

After that, I have been trying to move on but John’s wife has been calling and begging me to take back her husband. If only she knew. They live in Ikorodu, so John spends most of the time with us in Lekki, he goes home once in two weeks, so she does not see him often to be able to suspect her husband is cheating…. She went to the village and told everyone to beg me, told our aged father…who summoned me to come home.

My father begged me to help my sister, that he had her when he was already an old man, and her mother is dead, that she is family, that we fire family members. I went home, they asked me why I fired John, I tried to tell them John was rude…I tried to say he stole but no one cared. I could not lie further. In fact, they begged my husband to beg me too. I did not want my husband to be suspicious if I dont take him back so in the end, the family and my husband decided I take John back. John was happy.