I Have Just Been Served The Most Humiliating Breakfast-Please Advise

True Life Story: I Have Just Been Served The Most Humiliating Breakfast-Please Advise

Good evening Lively Stones,

I am very hurt right now, confused and pained. I have just been served the most humiliating breakfast. I need your advice because I do not know what else to do. How can someone be so wicked to a fellow human being? So, this is what happened this very week, as people were wishing loved ones a happy new month, I was getting served a hot breakfast. I work in a bank. I worked there for my NYSC and got retained because the bank was very impressed by my performance. I have a 2.1 as well. I also worked very hard. Life was good.

In our branch, some guys wanted to date me but I refused because I did not fancy them. I was like the new hot girl in the office, but I started developing feelings for one of my colleagues who works in another section (investment banking). We never used to talk until we went for training and sat together. Let’s call this guy Osas. Osas is a very cool guy, not like most of the guys in the bank.

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We got talking during the training and on the last day of the training he kissed me. Later on, he started ignoring me, I was surprised but he later explained that the kiss was a mistake and that he is in a relationship. I was bummed, but I told myself I had to let go, he said we can just be friends. Big mistake. As friends, we chatted a lot..until, the tension built up so much, he said his girlfriend noticed he was having an emotional affair and broke up with him.

When he said his girlfriend broke up with him, I gave myself to him fully. I was very much into him, I was in love. I could not function without him. And for him too, he seemed to be crazy over me. We met in his place but most times, we met in my place. All my friends know him, and my mom knows him…my mom is a single mother by the way, and my mom liked him. Anyway, we were in a serious relationship but we could not let our colleagues at work know cos it was not permitted to be in a relationship with a coworker...one person would be expected to resign.

As time went on, we have been seeing each other for nine months. Three months ago, I got pregnant and both of us were shocked. Osas convinced me that it was bad timing to have a child. He said we would get married next year, so we should terminate the pregnancy so it would not hinder our employment. I did not tell my mom but I saw reason with him and got rid of the pregnancy. After the abortion, I started noticing Osas was kinda avoiding me.

When I complained, he would say he was very overwhelmed at work. When I wanted to come over to his place, he would prefer to come to mine. Last week, I was very sick, Osas came to see me practically after work every day….I relaxed my mind thinking all was well. So you can imagine my extreme shock when I got to work on Monday and HR announced Osas wedding, that it’s holding this coming Saturday!!! Not to me o…to a different girl…someone I suspected to be the girlfriend he is supposed to be broken up with.

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Is this supposed to be a prank? I quickly called Osas but his line refused to connect. I was shaking by now, I could not concentrate at work….I had to go to the fifth floor which is the investment banking section to confront Osas. When I got there, he was in a meeting with some people, I walked up to him and said I want to talk to him, he looked at me and said for what? I was like…what do you mean for what? There is an email from HR to all staff that your wedding is on Saturday, is this true?

Osas said yes… it’s true. He said it with such cold straight eyes…I wondered what the hell was happening. I was like…how? What about me…what about us? Why did you lie to me….Osas just got up and asked me to leave cos he does not know what I am talking about. I realized some people were now looking at me like I was crazy so I had to leave. I went straight to the toilet and cried. I called my mom and told her what happened.

My mom got so mad that she told me that I should go and report Osas to management. She said if I don’t that she will come and report by herself. I told her not to worry …I stayed in the toilet for a while and cleaned my eyes but the tears would not stop rolling. I don’t know how I managed to stay till the close of work that day but I knew I was having such a serious headache. My colleagues noticed and asked me what is going on, but I kept saying nothing.

When I got home that day, I bought a sniper, videoed myself, and sent it to Osas and my mom. My mom almost passed…she called my landlord who came quickly, they burst into my apartment before I could take the sniper. My life is over. How can Osas do this to me? After almost nine months of dating, telling me I was his wife-to-be, meeting all my friends, my mom, he knows my mom is a single mother….one who has been looking forward to the day I got married….yet he did this to me?

After making me have an abortion….this guy is the most evil devil in the world. He did not even call me after I sent the video to him cos the video may not have reached him cos I realized he had blocked me on all channels. My mom has been with me since Monday…everyone praying and encouraging me but the pain has refused to go. My mom is still insisting that we report this to the bank management, that even if that cannot stop Osas from marrying on Saturday, it will at least, make the management know what he did to a young employee.

On Wednesday, a colleague came to see me because I did not come to work on Tuesday. I had to confide in her what happened. She was shocked but she said Osas had done this before but with a Cleaner. About two years ago, a Cleaner was fired because she reported that Osas r*ped her but Osas said the girl wanted him but he rejected her, so she tried to frame him. At the time, the bank believed Osas and the Cleaner were fired by the cleaning company that brought her.

My colleague also feels I should report Osas because she suspects there may be others Osas has deceived too. But I am scared of the scandal…what if they do not believe me like they did not believe the cleaner? I would be ridiculed for life. My colleague tried to confront Osas the next day and Osas said to her that he did not promise anything, that I knew he was in a relationship, that I was the one offering myself to him, and that we both had a consensual s3x relationship. That his fiancé is aware and she has forgiven him.

Do you see that Osas is a snake? Saying I threw myself at him? That what we had was just s3x? Friends with benefits? Now, it’s looking like I was the desperate one. I am not the first to fall for Osas fine boy charm. As Saturday draws near…I am losing hope and the desire to live…the pain is just too much. I still cannot fathom how Osas would do this to me…..all I keep remembering is all the times we had s3x and he told me I was the best thing that ever happened to him…how did I miss all the signs that he was lying? how do I ever move on with this?

My mom wants to go to the bank tomorrow to report or she says she will go to the wedding and scatter it. She said one prophet revealed Osas is my husband but that he is under jazz…my mom is very hurt…I think she is in denial… the sweet girl that was supposed to remove disgrace from her as a single mother has just been dumped most horribly. Do you think Osas was jazzed? How can someone love me so much for nine months and one day…despise me so much…he has never called since Monday.

My mom went to his place yesterday…the security did not let her in. Please I need advice….what is going on in my life…is this jazz? Should I report to the management or should I allow my mother to get the wedding? how will any of these help me?  What do I do now…how do I show myself at work in the same company with such an evil man? my heart is so heavy that I feel I may not make it. The humiliation is not what anyone should wish for even their enemy.

Please pray for me…please help me….I just want to wake up from this bad dream….I must be dreaming right?

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